DESIRE
Barry and Elizabeth McCarthy state in their Book Male Sexual Awareness Increasing Sexual Satisfaction (1998) that the key element in sexual desire is anticipation. Ideally, the man feels he deserves sexual pleasure and anticipates the sexual experience. This is, of course, assuming his sexual experiences have been both positive and well-received. Otherwise, one could have negative anticipation or low expectations of his deserving sexual experiences.
Anticipation is the act of expecting, waiting for, or preparing for a future event, often with excitement, eagerness, or nervous tension. It can involve looking ahead, either through mental expectation (pleasurable anticipation) or proactive action (anticipating the approaching storm), effectively taking measures before the event occurs.
Usage examples could include excitement, preparations, strategy/prevention, music/art.
Synonyms…expectation, prospect, hopefulness, forethought, preparation, outlook.
Desire is not often present as Spontaneous; this is a misnomer! Rather, desire follows some stimulus, think what we see, hear, taste, touch, smell. Seeing an attractive person, hearing the low moan of sex in a movie, tasting the salt on your lover’s neck, being touched in a slow, sensual manner, or smelling your favorite fragrance. These stimuli often can help lead to DESIRE.
Desire is not effortless, and yet we need to allow ourselves to be open and responsive to sexual stimuli. A Willingness to watch our desire build…